Max Goldman
I still believe that someday the LGBT parades during Pride Month will be celebrated on the same level as Labour Day parades in May.
Elena Klimova, literary editor, journalist, and writer, is known as the creator of the highly acclaimed public Internet project supporting homosexual, bisexual, and transgender youngsters "Children-404".
How did it happen that you ended up as the movie's hero? Was there any fear of publicity?
The directors, Askold Kurov and Pavel Loparev, contacted me. They explained the idea of the movie. I agreed. There was no particular fear. First of all, I was quite fearless at the time, and I had not yet received hundreds of threatening messages, and secondly, I did not think that this movie could get millions of views and ruin my life.
How did you feel when the movie came out?
It's hard to say, it was a long time ago. I remember the first time I watched the movie and almost cried. The ending was very touching. With hope for the best.
Were there any consequences?
No. I've been recognized in the public before, but not because of the movie. My photos were in the media.
How has the group evolved since the movie came out?
Exactly the same as before. We ran a group on "VKontakte", we were periodically banned by some court decision, we were moving to a new group, it happened several times. During the time I was the heading the project, we published more than 10 thousand letters. Now the project has moved to Telegram.
Are there any stories that have touched you in a particular way?
I'm not a big fan of this question. Teenagers were and are writing stories, not to touch us and to be memorized by us. They ask for help and support. And all the stories are rather similar, all the problems are typical: misunderstanding of relatives and friends, unrequited love, thinking about the future.
Have you managed to establish long-term relationships with any of the band members?
I used to text with a few girls and boys for a few years, but the communication has slowly declined.
How have the stories, their tone and content changing over time?
They haven't changed. The problems remain the same. Under any laws, prohibitions and circumstances, teenagers are concerned about the same things: unrequited love, problems of identity, relationships with their families and the future.
You handed over administration to a group in 2020-21. What were the reasons?
There's a lot of reasons. I was bored with it. I was tired of waiting for the police to knock on my door ( they used to come often). I was tired of having to sue too. I wasted my time and nerves every time. My outlook on life and my interests have also changed. Now I run a telegram channel for radical feminists and write books for girls and women.
How was your life after that?
In general, everything has remained the same. I have not emigrated, I still live in Nizhny Tagil, I still have a spouse, a job, my favorite things to do.
What is your opinion on the current situation with the LGBT community and especially minors in Russia? And how do you think their future will be?
The situation is hard. Now it is much more difficult than it was when, according to the law on LGBT propaganda, firstly, it was punishable only among minors, and secondly, it was only an administrative punishment. There is a lot of censorship. But, thank God, no one has cut off the Internet yet. If you want to find information that you are not sick and you are normal, you can do it. You can also find people to socialize with. Yes, it's gotten a lot harder, on a self-perception level, but I don't share the " all is lost" views. We are here, we keep living, we are not disappearing under any laws.
According to gender psychologist Maria Sabunaeva, acceptance of LGBT in society goes through four stages: first they are ignored, then berated, then criticized, and then accepted. What stage do you think Russian society is at now?
I think that's a wrong and rather primitive way of thinking about things. "It's ignored/criticized/accepted" - who are we talking about? The "human mass?" It doesn't exist. About "society"? It doesn't exist either. There is no unified view of any phenomena, no unified attitude towards homosexual people. Neither 10 years ago nor now most people don't really care. That's not a bad thing either. It's not "sit back and keep your head down", it's "there are some of these people somewhere - well, fine". No one thinks about us - good or bad - until the propaganda starts poisoning our brains. Most share exactly such views. It's silly to think as if the abstract majority hates us. They don't.
Do you think leaving the country is the solution? What makes this option unaffordable for many people?
It depends on the individual. For some people it is a way out, for others it is not. Why is it unaffordable - first look at the median salary in the Russian Federation, then at the list of countries to which it is now almost impossible to get a visa, plus not everyone wants to leave, and that's normal. I also want to live a good life - but I want to live a good life where I am now.
I still believe that someday the LGBT parades during Pride Month will be celebrated on the same level as Labour Day parades in May.
...do not give up and do not despair, do what you think is the right thing to do. Russia will definitely be free.
Yes. There is very little hope, but that is the one thing that is hard to take away from us.
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